I am a male who has found it hard to mix and understand the female form and as such has found it some what difficult to find love. I suppose the fact that I had a stuttering problem did not help or maybe that was just my excuse.

I am quite short for a male and always prefer to date women who are smaller than I am. This however counts quite a lot of them out. I also like women who are very down to earth and who are quite relaxed about life, not too into themselves for example. I also prefer them to be brunette with a nice smile and attractive eyes, a slim figure would also be a bonus.

What I have just described is what I believed to be my perfect girlfriend. This whole notion was blown out of the water around ten years when I had to work on a project at the Psychic Readings company where I worked with a woman called Sam. She was about ten years older than I was and I will never forget what my first impressions of her were. What a mess, I thought. She had a distinct lack of make up on; her hair had seemingly not been brushed and her clothes had lets just say “seen better days”.

Despite these first impressions I have to say that Sam was so nice and helpful to me over the next three months. She is probably one of the kindest and purest people I have ever met.

After about ten weeks of first meeting Sam, I started to dream about her and I think I fell in love with her. She had not suddenly made an effort with her appearance, still looked a mess etc. This was no longer of importance; it was the person as a whole that counted.

I never ever admitted to Sam how I felt as she was married, I think her husband is one of the luckiest men alive.

Steve Hill is a pet insurance rep based in Birmingham who has now found love and has two beautiful children!