When you think about striking up a conversation with a girl and attracting women, how do you picture it going in your mind?

Most guys think that conversation is about getting to know her, and letting her know about you, and being laidback and casual.

Just go with the flow, right?

Well, NOT if you want to get results and REALLY start attracting women.

If you want to GUARANTEE that you get her phone number and meet her again very soon … or, bring her home TONIGHT (if the situation allows for it) … you’ve got to get STRATEGIC with the way you converse with women.

Conversation is a TOOL that is going to get you where you want to go.  But in order to use this tool correctly, you’ve got to learn how to apply it and MASTER it.

This means no more awkward silences, while you wonder what to say next … or feeling phony because you’re relying on some stupid “pickup routine” you learned from some so-called guru (who probably has trouble getting laid himself).

As an Alpha Man who understands the art of attracting women, you’re going to CONTROL the conversation and guide it along.

You’re not just talking aimlessly, going with the flow, chatting about whatever topic she brings up.

There is going to be a definite PURPOSE to every conversation you initiate with a woman, and a RESULT you are steering it towards.

See, when an Alpha Man converses with a woman, it SEEMS like a normal conversation … on the surface.

The woman doesn’t suspect anything out of the ordinary: he just seems like a cool guy who has interesting things to say.

Underneath the surface, however, he is following a plan.

He is building a RAPID CONNECTION with her that makes attracting women occur naturally.

He makes her feel a level of COMFORT with him that the average guy couldn’t create, even after spending hours with her!

I absolutely believe in this material. When I meet a girl and converse for ten minutes with her, I create a sense of COMFORT and FAMILIARITY that most guys would never get after spending two hours on a date with her.

One of my students, Greg, has gotten really good at this. If you see Greg at a bar chatting with a girl, they’ll be laughing, touching each other’s arms, looking like a couple who’ve known each other for a long time.

But usually, this is a girl that Greg met only MINUTES ago!

That’s what is so special about The Alpha Rules. The section in our book about attracting women shows you how to cut through all the crap, all the awkwardness and phoniness, and create a REAL connection. Learning how to meet hot girls, and understanding the process of attracting women, will feel easy and natural.

You’re also going to learn how to slip through the BARRIERS that women put up. This is their natural defense mechanism which they use to “screen out” all the WRONG guys.

In the Alpha Rules book we go into a lot of detail about this. In this program you’ll learn every step of the process — from the opening approach, to building the bond, and closing the deal.”

For now, let’s run down a few key pointers about attracting women:

* Let her talk and share. Women love a man who listens and appreciates what she has to say. The more details she shares about herself, the stronger the connection grows. (The bottom line is, you need to know how to ask her the right questions. The way you phrase your words is so important.)

A big part of attracting women is about cutting through the small talk and taking it to a deeper level. Don’t get stuck talking about jobs. Mention the things you are most passionate about, and get her to share hers.

(Get her to reveal a goal or a dream of hers, and be encouraging and supportive, and you’re really in the door … )

If you’re passionate about your work, that’s great. But don’t dwell on the present. Talk about future possibilities.

And remember, if you’re not yet where you want to be, in terms of money and success, you can generate strong attraction from women if you show AMBITION and PASSION.

You see, an ambitious, passionate guy makes her feel, “this guy’s life is on an exciting, positive track. It would be cool to be a part of it.”

Also, maintain a sense of mystery. During the initial conversation, it’s best to leave questions about yourself unanswered. Make her want to learn more about her.

Here are some examples…

Which sounds better?

“I work as a waiter at a restaurant.”

Or…

“I work in the restaurant industry. Right now I’m learning all I can about the business, because a few years from now I plan on opening my own place. What about you…I get the sense you’re an ambitious person, is there a goal you’re working towards right now?”

(Here, you demonstrated ambition and passion, then you turned the spotlight back onto her.)

Which sounds better?

“I’m actually between jobs right now…”

Or…

“I’m checking out a number of different business opportunities right now, I like to stay busy. What about you, how do you spend your days when you’re not working?”

Or, you might have achieved some success in your career. In this case, don’t boast about it or go into detail.

Just ALLUDE to the fact that you’re a sharp, successful guy with even bigger things on the horizon.

“Let’s just say I’m good at what I do and I’m very well compensated. The hours are long, but I love it… and I’m learning so much right now that I’m looking into launching my own business. Have you ever thought about starting your own business?”

Any negative can be spun into a positive, and any positive can be phrased so that it BUILDS YOU UP in her eyes.

If you’re ready to stop “playing the game” the way women want us to, you owe it to yourself to give The Alpha Rules a read. You’ll learn literally dozens of high-powered techniques for attracting women, and being the Alpha Man they find irresistibly interesting, charming, and seductive.

Your Wingmen,

Dean Cortez and Carlos Xuma

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I’ve talked to hundreds of women about the qualities they find most attractive in men, and a sense of humor is usually the first quality they mention.

But are women being phony when they say this? Are they giving this answer because they don’t want to appear shallow — when what they REALLY go for is a tall, muscular hunk with a hot car and a fat bank account?

If the ability to make a woman laugh was such a huge turn-on, then wouldn’t stand-up comedians get laid more than rock stars?

I mean, we all know guys with a “class clown” personality who are constantly saying hilarious things, and they’re usually the LAST guys to hook up. Women find them amusing, but don’t feel any SEXUAL ATTRACTION.

Here’s the truth about dating single women. When women say they love a sense of humor, what they really mean is they love the DEEPER ATTITUDE that a sense of humor points to. Guys who are funny, playful and nonchalant around women — and even better, can bust on women and tease them a little — are obviously confident and in control of their reality.

These guys don’t look to women for approval. They don’t radiate anxiety. They never seem like they NEED to get a woman’s phone number or hook up with her.

This goes back to two principles that I preach in The Alpha Rules, the explosive book I wrote with Carlos Xuma:

1.Women love men who present a challenge.

2.Women are fascinated by men who are “in demand” and obviously have other romantic/sexual options.

Women, by nature, are jealous and competitive when it comes to men. Give her the sense that she’ll have to step up and WIN you away from other women, and the game is on! A playful, cocky guy radiates this attitude. Meeting and dating single women becomes easy.

Having this attitude means you’ve got to stop second-guessing yourself. You’ve got to squash that little voice in your head that tells you why you SHOULDN’T approach a girl, or try to escalate to a romantic level with her.

The average guy takes himself WAY too seriously when it comes to women, and is constantly asking himself unnecessary questions:

“Does this shirt look good on me?”

“Is she going to get annoyed if I walk up and talk to her?”

“What if she has a boyfriend?”

“Where should I take her on a date?”

“What if we run out of things to talk about?”

“If I ask for her phone number, will she think I’m some stalker?”

“Is it too soon to try to touch her?”

When you allow your brain to fire off these questions, it destroys your ability to be fun, spontaneous and playful.This is when dating single women feels like a frustrating (and even depressing!) ordeal.

You’re allowing yourself to be preoccupied by unimportant details, when you SHOULD be asking yourself questions that boost your confidence and remind you to stay sharp and on top of your game:

“This girl is cute, but is she interesting enough for ME to date?”

“Is she smart and funny enough to hold a conversation with me?”

“What can I teach this girl, that she’d never learn from the average guy?” “What should I mention about myself, to really make this girl curious about me?”

“How far am I going to take this tonight, and what’s my plan?”

Now, in terms of the verbal questions that you ask women, you’ve also got to learn how to “spin” them to make them effective. When you’re getting to know a girl, and you make a request that she can simply say “no” to, chances are she will:

Him: Can I buy you a drink?

Her: No.

Him: Can I have your number?

Her: No.

Him: Can I kiss you?

Her: No.

Him: Want to go back to my place?

Her: Hell no.

Him: Can I see you again?

Her: I’m actually really busy…for the next six months…

When you’re out there dating single women, another great technique is to rephrase your questions so that you give women “false choices.” This means you are not giving her the chance to say “no.” You are assuming that she’s going to go with your flow. Lead the interaction, and if she’s at all interested in you, or at least curious, she’ll go along with it and never shut you down with a “no.”

Here are some examples of “wack” questions that clueless guys ask, followed by the Alpha “spin” on the same question:

WACK: Can I buy you a drink?

ALPHA: So tell me something interesting about yourself, that’s going to make me want to have a drink with you.

WACK: Do you mind if I get your phone number?

ALPHA: We should exchange numbers. (as you take out your phone) So what’s a good time to call you tomorrow?

WACK: Want to go back to my place?

ALPHA: Let’s go to my place and I’ll show you that _______ I told you about. (Fill in the blank with something you mentioned earlier, that you want to show her.) I’ve got a bottle of red wine you’re going to love, it’s a new label you have to try.

WACK: Would you like to dance?

ALPHA: I’m going to need to take you onto the dance floor. I don’t want you standing here looking like a wallflower.

WACK: Would you like to hang out sometime?

ALPHA: My friends told me about this new lounge that has great music on Friday and Saturday nights. Which night is better for you?

Those are just a few examples. Always remember that ordinary, common men who play it “safe” are the ones who ask permission from women. This leads to you suffering a lot of rejection! Flip the script and start “spinning” your questions to make them more powerful, interesting and effective.

This is one of the keys to dating single women on a new level — and making it feel fun and easy, the way it should be.

Your Wingman,

Dean Cortez

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